“Introversion arises from a need and preference to protect the inner, ‘subjective’ aspect of life, to value it more, and in particular not to allow it to be overwhelmed by the ‘objective’ world”
Dr. Elaine Aron, The Highly Sensitive Person
Most authors define introversion in terms of energy: introverts generate it through reflection and have to expend it in interactions with people. The problem is, I don’t see my life in terms of energy transactions. When I go out to meet people, I don’t calculate the balance and don’t write receipts. Not to mention, a lot of other factors affect my energy level: exercise, feeling unwell, diet, stress, rest, work, emotions.
Other definitions focus on things like size of your social circle and how much you talk. Sorta. It’s like saying that a bird is an animal with feathers. Correct in the strictly logical sense, but misses the point. Birds are not about feathers.
The definition above is the first one I can really relate to. For me, being an introvert is like having a second house inside your mind, complete with bookshelves, an armchair and a fireplace. I imagine it as a wizard’s or alchemist’s lair from the old computer games. A place you can always retreat to, a place where you feel comfortable and at home.